New series Find My Family premieres on ABC November 23

Posted on 11 November 2009 by Robert Seidman

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This was reported announced (in relation to the announced, but then scrapped ‘Let’s Dance”), but here’s the official press release from ABC:

November 11, 2009

PREMIERE

“FIND MY FAMILY,” A HEARTWARMING NEW SERIES THAT

BRINGS FAMILIES TOGETHER, PREMIERES MONDAY, NOV. 23,

FOLLOWING “DANCING WITH THE STARS’”

From the producer of “Extreme Makeover: Home Edition” comes the highly anticipated “Find My Family,” a program with one simple mission — to bring families back together. With the help of a dedicated team of researchers, hosts Tim Green and Lisa Joyner guide people searching for lost loved ones through emotional journeys that will change their lives forever. The heartwarming new series premieres MONDAY, NOV. 23 (9:30-10:00 p.m. ET), following “Dancing with the Stars.” Full-hour editions of the show will air Mondays from 9:00-10:00 p.m., ET beginning MONDAY, NOV. 30.

Each episode of the television series is a one-hour, self-contained show full of moving moments and tears of joy, when mothers, fathers, daughters and sons who lost touch for decades are reunited. The show will begin with the emotional back stories of two different families in search of lost relatives. With minimal information, the “Find My Family” team will begin the difficult and frustrating process of sifting through archives and tracking down records until they uncover the missing links. Then Lisa Joyner will reach out to the newly-found family members and let them know that someone from their biological family has been looking for them. Tim Green will narrate each story as it unfolds and meet with the people who originated the search. The in-person reunions will take place at the “Family Tree.”A follow-up with each family will conclude each episode.

In the premiere episode, Green and Joyner — both of whom are adopted themselves — head to Brookfield, WI to meet Scott and Sandy Steinpas, loving parents who are searching for the daughter they gave up when they were just teenagers. Sandy was just 15 years old when she met Scott and they started dating. In June of 1979 Sandy found out she was pregnant, and instantly she and Scott knew their lives were about to change. They had not been together long, were still living with their parents, and had no idea what the responsibility of raising a family, being married, or even paying a bill entailed. Because they could barely support themselves, let alone a baby, they decided to give their baby up for adoption — a huge decision that shaped their lives from that point forward.  Scott and Sandy stayed together against all odds and have been married for 27 years.  They have raised three beautiful children, but something, or someone, has always been missing.  Scott and Sandy have spent thousands of dollars and almost a decade searching for the daughter they gave up 29 years ago, but to no avail.  Now, it’s up to the “Find My Family” team to reunite this family who have, unknowingly, been living just miles apart.

Tom Forman (“Extreme Makeover: Home Edition,” “Kid Nation”), Julie Laughlin-Jones (“Shear Genius,” “Fat March,” “Extreme Makeover”), Chris Coelen (“Wife Swap,” “Don’t Forget the Lyrics,” “How to Look Good Naked”) and Tony Yates (“Shaq’s Big Challenge,” “Supernanny,” “Project Greenlight”) are executive producers. “Find My Family” is produced by RelativityReal and RDF USA.

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  • RealisticExpectations

    And now, for the latest edition of Unscripted, Reality Programming…

    Meh.

  • AJ

    American version of Spoorloos (3 milion viewers in Amsterdam where only 16 milion people live)

  • Chris

    yawn thank god for Fox and CBS

  • UH

    I’m sure this crap will be a hit :)

  • Raymond

    It’s actually a really heartwarming moving show in Australia (I’m not sure if that’s where it originated from) – but I highly recommend it if you like that sort of thing.

  • TheFocesThatBe

    Oh NO!

    Like somebody said previously, thank god for FOX and CBS.

    ABC has to be one of the worst networks on TV right now, its badder than NBC right now and its a darn shame b/c it used to be the best of the best.

  • AZTop

    I like unscripted – but yech to this. We don’t need another Extreme Make Over Home Edition which is nothing more than Queen for a Day. (If you don’t know what that is – you are definitely under 60! Hint: it doesn’t have anything to do with alternative life-styles.)

    I guess they dumped Kathy Griffin for this. Probably a smart move ratings-wise.

  • johncooly4ever

    Wow they shouldn’t use this slot after DWTS to promote another show! I mean, they have like Ugly Betty on that time slot to get back viewers and have that new show follow Supernanny!

    I mean come on! It’s the perfect combo. Supernanny/Find my family!

    I mean you can’t move a new show like FlashForward to Mondays, it’s still brand new and people might get confused. Just put Ugly Betty after DTWS and it will be all good. I think…

  • Chuck Tranberg

    Yuck.

  • TD

    More crap from ABC! Cancelling “Eastwick” and treating “Ugly Betty” like a bastard at a family reunion is really going to make me stop watching EVERYTHING on ABC! They order more episodes of the awful “the forgotten” which should just be forgotten! “Eastwick” was original and fun and should have at least had the benefit of following one of ABC hits such as “Desperate Housewives” or “DWTS.”

  • GigG

    That sounds like it could be the worst show ever made.

  • http://goldderbyforums.latimes.com/eve/personal?x_myspace_page=profile&u=649106171 thedemonhog

    “From the producer of “Extreme Makeover: Home Edition” comes the highly anticipated…”

    Wait, what?

  • Joseph

    “(If you don’t know what that is – you are definitely under 60! Hint: it doesn’t have anything to do with alternative life-styles.)”

    I’m way under 60 and know what you’re talking about, but dang I like your version better! It could be hosted by Johnny Weir and air on Bravo!

    Isn’t there already another American cable program, “The Locator” or somesuch that finds people? How about a show called “Lose My Family” instead? People with the most wretched inlaws, deadbeat, thieving siblings and abusive parents get picked to enter a witness protection program, relocated to another part of the country, names changed and able to start a brand new life, with one last parting video message to their family, telling them they never want to see them again? It could be hosted by Katey Segal and Ed O’Neill. Now that I’d watch. Of course, then the host of “The Locator” would try to find the relocated people for the evil families, and we’d have quite the cross-channel squabble, making it even more compelling…..

  • frieda

    Why cant there be a way to find a lost family member without it costing you so much? Espically if the one you are looking for is not mentally able to even know they are adopted. She is now 29 years old, and I cant afford to search for her. Do you have any comments? My daughter is 29 yrs old and she will never find me but I would love to help searching for her.

  • http://dosomethingelse.tumblr.com J.R. Herbaugh

    Why cant there be a way to find a lost family member without it costing you so much?

    NBC should revive “Unsolved Mysteries.”

  • Paul PT

    Find My Family is a australian hit show between old people. (adaptation of a deutch format)

    Very strange to see this kind show on abc and in a monday slot!

    more yet because this show have a old plot, smells like 90′s!

  • Joe D

    Sounds like more of a retread of another country’s show rather than actually coming up with something original. ABC is becoming more of a cable network programmer on broadcast.

  • Evil

    Oh noes :( Poor Castle, I think we will see the return of the Surviving Suburbia situation, where a crap show that airs between DWTS and Castle kills a good number of Castles audience.

  • angelsgal

    This show apprentlry originated in Germany, but the US once is more based on the Austrlian one. This show is HUGE in Austrlia. A few Aussie shows are being picked up. Fox has picked up the Aussie Fomat of MasterChef, ABC has with Find My Family and Packed to the Rafters (a family drama) and CBS has picked up Talkin’ ‘Bout Your Generation (a panel/quiz show seeing which generation is better at identifying world events, pop culture phases and different fashions…very funny stuff) Hope they do ok, since NBC has had epic fails with Kath and Kim and Thank God You’re Here, 2 of the biggest shows on Aussie TV

  • Magnum

    hahahah We have a show like that here in Brazil… Actually, it’s Find My Family + Extreme Makeover HE + “let’s help this homeless, give him a house, a job and explore his life story”. Every sunday, for 4 hours (Programa do Gugu – 8pm~12am). Terrific show. -not

  • BlueLick

    ABC is slowly dying on us everybody and I’m seeing the beginning of the end to this network just like NBC five years ago and now that network is completely dead with USA finishing ahead of it almost every night.

  • http://tvbythenumbers.com Bill Gorman

    BlueLick, “just like NBC five years ago and now that network is completely dead with USA finishing ahead of it almost every night.”

    You’re hallucinating, NBC’s fallen a long way (but so have the other broadcasters), but USA is still not even close to them on average.

  • Chucksmom

    What Evil said…….

  • BlueLick

    I was exaggerating when it came to USA but in terms of not having as many households as NBC has, I still consider USA a better network than NBC right now.

    Broadcasters have fallen a long ways but that is b/c the horrible mismanagement of the current programmers who have put the dollar ahead of their passion, the networks back in the day were able to feel passion and pride for their networks and still meet the bottomline. CBS is the only network that still feels like a broadcaster now in days. CBS hasn’t lost a beat as they have most of their programs available for online viewing so these networks trying to use that excuse is just plain pathetic.

    Truth is this, if ABC loses Grey’s and DH their network is done with only relying on DWtS. That’s when things get real scary for ABC. The network has no NFL program to help promote their shows during the week.

  • Cinds

    I am very saddened to hear that you are going to air this t.v. show. In times like this where families are dealing with so much this is not appropriate t.v. for children. THIS IS NOT GOOD T.V. !!! I have talked to alot of other parents and NOT ONE OF THE PARENTS that I talked to thought this was a good idea and they ALL said that they would not be watching. please THINK OF OUR FAMILIES AND PLEASE DO NOT AIR THIS BAD CONCEPT SHOW. How about putting on a good family comedy or something that will not affect family stucture. THAT WOULD BE SOMETHING THAT ALOT OF VIEWERS WOULD BE THRILLED WITH AND YOU WILL NOT LOOSE SO MANY VIEWERS.

    ABC used to be my favorite channel to watch but as of now I along with alot of other people will not be watching ABC. You just lost me !!!!! Please rethink this horrible show now!! before you loose more viewers.

  • JPost

    Gotta agree with you guys, lost of passion for ABC executives has grown me to lose ABC as a network as I’ll be only watching a few things on this network from here on out. ABC I’m done!

  • Angela Cook

    I personally think this will be a wonderful show… I only wish I had the chance to be on it, for i have been searching for my father for 30 years with absolutely no luck… Wish i knew about the show in advance so maybe i could have sent in my story… I cant wait to see the show… Thanks ABC keep up the good work!!!

  • Riff Rafferty

    It was touching to read a sane comment from Angela Cook after about 10 comments from clearly insane people.

    Yes, how evil and callous of ABC to want to reunite families. Does their cold-heartedness know no bounds?

  • Paul PT

    ABC pick up packed to the rafters?

    Finally i already suggest this show here a few times!

  • dd

    I found my family 3 years ago and it was a turning point for my life. I hope this show makes it because it is helping people who could not find their families on their own. For me, I found my parents had married 5 years after they gave me up and then had 10 more children. Since then we have had 4 family reunions with my family and my 70+ new relatives! It’s been awesome. I used a search angel I found on the internet. The service was free. Good luck to anyone who is trying to find their birth parent/s.

  • http://tvbythenumbers.com nancy janousek

    Find my family is a show that is long overdue! Anyone who has been touched by adoption knows the joy of adopting a child but also knows the hole that the child feels not knowing where they came from, not knowing their brothers and or sisters, grandparents, …. This show is a fact of life, may cause some pain to remember, but again it may help them make peace with their past. I hope it turns out bigger than extream home makeover. People need to be educated to the fact that what happend in the past does not have to be something that weighs you down the rest of your life if you make peace with it, the more family one has, and the more love you can give the happier you will be!

  • Sharon

    Wow!!! To all the people that feel this show is not worth the time. I wish I could watch it with you. I am an adoptee and live in NYS and can not find my biological family. Shame on all of you who have no feelings….. I guess you know your family and where you came from. Oh and more importantly any health issues that may run in your family. I am so looking forward to this show!!!! Unfortunately I think it is hard for people to actually hear true stories. They rather watch shows with blood, crime and sex! Good luck ABC! Many New Yorkers will be watching.

  • River

    Hmmm. Sounds pretty sappy to me, but I hope it does well: I’m addicted to “Castle” in the 10:00 slot, and I don’t want to see it take a ratings dive!

  • Melanie

    how do we get someone on this show!?

  • angelsgal

    Paul PT according to Australian media reports a pilot was in development for a US Version by ABC. Despite its insanely huge popularity down here, I prefer NCIS (which is on at the smae time)but have watched it a few times and can see why it has mass appeal. I think this could be Huge for the ABC even if its 1/2 as popular in the US as it is hear. Cant wait for US MasterChef (even if Ramsay is hosting) and US Talkin bout your gen.

  • angelsgal

    also i forgot to say, i dont think this will work in the states (I hope it does) Border Security is also huge here (beating Idol and 60minutes in total people and demos) yet it didnt take off in the US. No shows that have been adapted from Aussie shows have as yet, so im going on my track record. Still shows like Packed to the Rafters, Talking About Your Gen and most of all MASTERCHEF (best show ever) SHOULD BE EMBRACED BY ALL OF U IN THE USA

  • http://www.findmyfamily.org Aaron Sheinbein

    Though not affiliated with the show, I run the adoption reunion registry for California-born adoptees and their birth family members, FindMyFamily.org.

    The registry is mutual-consent, meaning a reunion is only pursued if both parties register that they are looking for each other.

    I am currently working on expanding the registry to other states.

    We do not charge any fees and strictly relying on donations to continue it, set the registry up over 10 years ago with thousands of successful reunions.

  • SleeperActiveCompass

    ‘Lose My Family’

    Totally brill. I’m sure this will have 11 million Live + SD and 2.7 in the demo. When ABC sees that, Castle will be relegated to Friday or Saturday.

  • Sharon

    This new series is real life! So many people looking for their loved ones and not knowing how to find them. So many needing medical histories and not knowing how to obtain them. So many needing that answer as to why they were given up for adoption. Thank God for people like Mary Weidling, isearch@jvlnet.com, who did one of the pilot serches for the Wisconsin family. She has dedicated her life to searching and to helping those who request her help in finding a loved one. She is co founder of WE CARE, does not charge excessive fees, and is successful in her mission to help others.

  • LIZ

    To the people who are blasting the show without seeing it… Who raised you? Jesus, it’s show that takes people who have longed to know where they come from, seek answers, want medical background information and have an emptiness that only someone adopted can understand. I’ve seen a sneak preview, it’s AMAZING! Just get out the kleenex!

    PS..ABC is the highest rated network, Extreme Makeover is one of the highest rated show on TV. So apparently, the idiots are the minority not the majority! Thank God!

  • Aimee

    I am glad that ABC is smart enough to air something that effects REAL EVERDAY PEOPLE after something as stupid as DWTS. I am a free search angel, and adoptee and birth mother, and I think reunion is an important part of all of our lives. Why wouldn’t you want your children to watch a show based on pure unconditional love? That’s insane! There are wonderful groups online for just about every state. You shouldn’t have to pay a searcher, there are free search angels everywhere and infact we normally solve the cases the paid searcher couldn’t. If you choose a paid searcher research them VERY carefully, there are some that are just liars!

    God bless all who will be touched by this show and I hope that some judges and politicians watch and maybe have their hearts changed regarding opening adoption records.

  • hockshop

    I am wondering how to get onto this show. My husband’s twin was given up for adoption at birth, and I have been trying to find him.

  • http://gmail have some sympathy

    Hey there,
    Please don’t start bashing this show when you have no idea what these people have gone through. You can disagree with the network, but remember these are real life people and their story is real. If some of the participants read some of your comments, they would be hurt. They go through an emotional roller-coaster ride and don’t need you unsympathetic people making the comments that you are. Please just think before you comment! You wouldn’t understand unless you have a similar story or know someone who does.

  • Sharon

    In my memo above, I said mary is co-founder of “We Care” and it should have said “I Care.” Check out the web site

    http://www.icareregistry.com

  • AJ

    I was contacted by the producers of this show to be featured. They really made it sound like I could be helped and they even had me send in my personal information. I guess I didn’t make for good TV because they stopped contacting me altogether after getting my hopes up. It may sound heart-warming but in the end, it’s all about what makes money. You just DO NOT do that to adoptees; we’ve been through enough already. Nice right?

  • Veronica

    How can I be one of the people who you help fond their family?

  • Valerie

    The premise of this show makes me uncomfortable.

    My mother nearly had to give my older brother up for adoption. When she told me about it, she said that it would have been the hardest decision she’d ever made, and she wouldn’t have wanted him to come and find her. Instead, she would have wanted him to be happy with his adopted family. The family that raises you is your family.

    A family friend that was adopted also told me that he had no desire to find his birth mother, or have her find him. He was perfectly content with his loving adopted family.

    I do understand the family medical history, perhaps that’s something that needs to be amended in the adoption process (among many other things, I’m sure).

  • Sue

    I am looking forward to this show. How do I get a family added to your itenerary? I know of a family of 11 children who were taken from their parents. 5 were adopted by one family. I am trying to help these 5 find their other siblings, as well as their parents. This happened between 1992 & 1995 in Lodi/Stockton, California. We have had no luck in finding the rest of this family.

    This is a great, uplifting, show, which is greatly needed in these times when all we see on TV is death, blood and guts movies. Thank you ABC for adding such a wonderful series to your program listings.

  • http://Findmyfamily Diana Mueller

    Okay. My ten year old daughter wants to go on this show to find her grandmother. We have no idea where my Husband mother is. And his family will not help us find her. And being that my husband serve for our country. I wish it wouldn’t cost so much to find her. I wish there was a way I could sign up for this show.

    Thanks
    Diana Mueller

  • Laura

    As an adoptee, I welcome the opportunity for a program that may help spread understanding of our situation. I do worry that this show may be based in commercialism but am willing to give it a chance in the hopes that it may help not only those involved, but also give hope to others and, perhaps equally as important, raise the understanding of those who are currently closed minded out of fear or ignorance.

    I searched and found my birthmother and her family. Yes, it was a roller coaster of emotion. I was lucky in that they were welcoming, but it’s a huge impact on everyone. That was 13 years ago and things have not always run smoothly (sounds like a regular family, doesn’t it?) but the ending of the secrets and lies has brought great peace to not only myself and my birthmother’s immediate family, but has helped reunite many cousins along the way. Today, many are once again talking to each other so perhaps my searching not only helped myself but helped heal old family wounds that were hurting for over half a century. It’s amazing what a little truth and understanding can do for anyone.

    I may never be able to find my birthfather, but I would like to. He used the name Jim Moran (which we suspect may be a false name) but was 26 years old in 1957, was 6′ tall, dark hair, blue eyes, said he had a brother named Don, and used to go to the stock car races and other activities in/around Highland, NY. He apparently was married with one child at that time. If this description sounds like anyone you knew or know, please email cmclaura at aol dot com.

  • http://zazuetal@dnci.org lydia zazueta

    please help find my father and how to get on your show have not seen my father in 35 years i met only once thank you

  • Kimberly Grone

    PLease help me found my uncles daughter, he has not seen his daughter in about five years and can’t afford a lawyer to go though the courts with it all please this a wish i been wanting for him for years,one thing i would like to do for him for christmas. Thank you hope to hear from you .

  • Rose

    This is a great idea! But why is it soooooooo expensive to locate a family member. On the show they should show you how to find your family memeber inexpensively. I am searching for my father in law and husbands step sister. close but no confirmation yet maybe the show can help me!

  • KELLEY

    I THINK THIS IS GREAT, I’VE BEEN SERCHING FOR YEARS AND I DON’T HAVE THE MONEY TO FIND MY FAMILY. I THINK IT’S WRONG THAT THE PEOPLE THAT WANT TO HAVE TO FIND THERE FAMILY CAN ONLY DO IT IF THEY PAY MONEY. AT LEAST SOMEONE ON THIS SHOW HAS A CHANCE TO FIND THEIR FAMILY WITHOUT PAYING A SMALL FORTUNE. GOOD FOR YOU

  • Jan

    Wow, I was so taken back when I saw the advertisement of this show. Many of you are so right. It is so expensive and difficult to find a family member. I have been trying to find my sister that was adopted out of the family. I have no information except mother’s name, her approximate birth year and first, middle name. When I found the adoption papers that was as far as I had read when someone came up from behind me and took the papers from me and said I would never see them again. I couldn’t get them from him. How do I start the process of getting on your show? I am 57 now, and have no idea where she is.

  • Marian

    I, for one, am always delighted to see programs like this. Having been adopted and searching for over 20 yrs., esp. since both adoptive parents died when I was young, it has always been a dream to find birthfamily. I have spent over 20 yrs. searching with no luck, but am always happy when others find someone. Unless you’ve been there, you cannot know the importance of programs like these, esp. when you can’t afford to spend the money it takes to do all the searching.

  • ChrisH

    I too have been searching for the father I have never known. At age 33 I learned the name of a total stranger that was my father. I have been searching ever since, over 20 years, to find his family. With so little to go on it is difficult to keep searching but I do. I may never know any more than just his name. With help from other sources, like T.V. shows, perhaps connections can be made. Hitting dead-ends all the time wears you down, but you keep getting up and try just once more. It’s hard to not know what he looked like, do you look like him, do I have brothers and sisters, health questions and so much more. To all that search, just keep trying, I will, even at age 54.

  • AGNES

    i’ve been looking for my son for 60 yrs.i paid once to find him but never got an answer just taken for my money, he was born in Rochestern N.Y. i would also like to find my brother John who lives in Terrell Tx. to let him know his mom will be 99 in December,a program like this is good if it would really help us find our loved one those of us who want to find them.

  • Janet

    something we have all wanted to do in my family is to find his dad whom he has not seen since he was like maybe 2 his dad has only seen him maybe 2 times from what we understand. who knows maybe we can learn how to search for his dad.

  • Debra

    I am involved in adoption myself and certainly understand the emotions involved by all parties. But it is a complicated issue that can’t be played out in an hour of pandering to the 3 hanky crowd. I worry about young people seeing this that are adopted and having unrealistic fantasies about what is out there for them. I hope the show gives a responsible well rounded picture of the issue and not just fantasy episodes.
    While I feel for anyone searching for answers and family, I can’t help but feel that this should be a more private process. There are ways to get help for free.

  • Bill

    Another tv show where they pretend it’s hard to find someone. My sister and I found two adopted brothers after almost 50 years and we didn’t need a tv show. Now if the show is so great lets see if they can find the last adopted brother. We’ll even tell the show where and when he was adopted and a birth date. Anyone with some brains can find most of the people the tv shows look for.

  • Crystal

    I am excited about watching this show. Iam tired of watching people do stupid stuff for money or the same old drama filled show that is so far from reality!! This show is gonna be great, real people, real lives, real emotions!!! What could be any better than to watch a family reunite, the puzzle put together after years of searching, frustration and heartache… If you have never had a missing family member or desperatly searched for someone to no avail, you will never understand the full impact of this show.. I for one do and can’t wait to see the show and i applaud the producer and all who are involved.. May God bless..

  • http://yahoo patrice e. lindsay martino

    you get peoples hopes up about finding lost family members. i lived in 21 foster homes all my life. im 50 now lost touch w family members when i was6 years old. no blood relatives at all ever nobody, not one. been searching for 37 years now to find just one blood relative. then, you come up with this set up, its all stage and other people get there hopes up. unfair. i hope people dont get hurt or sad over the fact that you cant help the. i always do. petey.leising@yahoo.com

  • http://yahoo patrice e. lindsay martino

    born newark n.j. august 20, 1959 mother’s name shelia, father unknown was a mailman in newark 1960- 1967? my full name patrice Eliabeth Lindsay martino. place in 21 foster homes. anybody help me find closure to this empty heart i carry. PLEASE

  • http://AOL NANNETTE

    HI MY NAME IS NANNETTE AND I AM LOOKING FOR MY BIRTH FARTHER
    I AM 47 AND WOULD LOVE TOO KNOW MY BIRTH FARTHER

  • http://AOL NANNETTE

    SORRY IAM SO USED FAR THER GET IT HAHA FATHER

  • melissa pressley

    I agree with the person on here that said it is going to be a great show but it would be nice if they could show us inexpensive ways to find people on our own I have been searching for my parents since I was 16 yrs old I’m 39 now. I’m a single parent and I can’t afford to hire someone to locate them and what are the chances of getting on one of these shows 1 in a million.I would give anything I have to know who my mother is. And to thse that say this is a bad show for familys how can it be bad to bring familys together if anything it should show kids to be thankfull for the fanilys they have cause so many of us out there don’t have one. So shame on those of you that don’t agree with bringing familys together. I will watch the show and I wish all those familys good luck in their journeys.

  • Roberta

    I would love to know how to find my Birth Mother or Family or Birth Father. I am 53 years old and have gone on line, talked to different agencies and even send my story to a few talk shows. I can not afford the fees that these agencies want to charge. Then last night I saw the commercial for this new show and am wondering how do you get on these shows? Were do you go to look to find them? Please give me a clue how to do this……….

  • Shirley

    Do you also try to find family members who may be deceased whom have never met, such as a father and son?? Example: son never met his father and has been searching for him for many years, but by this time the father may be deceased. Son is also running out of time due to age, but would like to at least know where his father is buried if he is deceased.

  • suzanne hebert

    my mom and I have been searching for my brother,for 25 years,we have tried everything,my mother has been severeley depressed for many years as well as I. If there is any way we could contact this show please let us know. we would be very greatful. I WOULD LOVE TO MEET MY BROTHER BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE, AS WELL AS MY MOTHER.MY EMAIL IS SBH6000@GMAIL.COM

  • Matt

    As an FYI for those who adopted or were adopted in California the first step is to contact the state and fill out all the consent forms, request non-identifying information, etc., and if by chance your birth relatives did that too they will connect the two of you together. That’s what happened to me as I was adopted. http://www.childsworld.ca.gov/PG1314.htm . I’m sure other states have similar rules and procedures too.

  • Matt

    To Debra’s 11/16 post – I TOTALLY DISAGREE – IT SHOULD NOT BE PRIVATE. If the parent gives away their own child they ought to have the guts enough to be contacted once they are 18 or older…besides many mothers actually regret what they do and for years long to see their child again. States who seal adoptions are wrong!

  • florence h. keeton

    i’m looking for my grand daughter. her name is elizabeth (wells) (means) or (keeton). i don’t know what name her mother used. she was born in portland,oregon on august 1,1986. please help me find her, ihave never seen her.

    thank you
    florence h. keeton

  • Lou

    I am waiting for this show to air. I have been looking for my father for over 35 years and it is frustrating, emotional, and takes a lot out of you! I am NOT adopted but that my mother had an affair, There are 4 children in my family and each one of us have a different father strangely enough I am the only one who is looking for my father. In many ways I am hoping that maybe this will help me to find him or some closure. I am 44 years old and in many ways not knowing your Father affects your life! thank your for this show!

  • Blackdog

    I wish I knew about this show earlier. I was adopted but never knew until about 7 years ago…when I we in my middle 50s. Adoptive parents are long deceased. I’d love to know who my real family is.

  • Pru

    I think this show is highly offensive to families that have been formed by adoption. By the name “find my family” you are implying that an adopted child is not living within his or her family already. How do you think adopted children, especially young ones, will feel? Do you think you are instilling the notion that they are not really “in” their family? What is wrong with you people? For the sake of ratings points you are completely ignoring the pain and suffering this may cause untold families. This is a personal matter which should not be sensationalized. Shame on you!

  • ribby

    As an adoptive parent, I’m a bit biased here, but the title “find my family” is insensitive and inaccurate. Once we adopted our daughters, we became a family. To make us something less because they were not born to me belittles my family. I am my daughters’ real mom. My husband and I are their parents. They have biological parents, and they know their adoption story. We have a semi-open adoption and share letters and pictures. I agree that once a person becomes 18 they should have access to their original birth certificate, but I am always dismayed by the reaction to these “search” shows and stories. It’s as if the children have never had a life, never been part of a family and have no parents. Thank God for shows like this and agencies that “reunite families” and bring “loved ones together.” (yes, I’m being sarcastic). I didn’t kidnap my daughters! Our daughters’ birthparents made a choice to terminate their parental rights and place their babies with me and my husband to raise as their parents. If these children are “reunited” with their “loved ones” then what have my husband and I and all other adoptive parents that raise children as their own (because that is what our daughters are when we adopted them) been doing all these years. I do understand the need to search and to know where you come from, but let’s not lessen the real parents, the adoptive parents along the way. Being a mom and dad is so much more than DNA.

  • Adopted

    You can always tell the insecure adoptive parents versus the secure adoptive parents by the way they react to these shows.

    Secure adoptive parents are happy; they know that shows like this provide awareness and education on the adoption experience.

    Anyone separated by adoption, foster care or other family dislocation should register at the International Soundex Reunion Registry, the oldest and most successful FREE mutual consent registry.

    To download registration forms and find more information, please visit http://www.isrr.net

  • Kathy

    As a mother of elementary aged adopted children, who know their story and were in foster care for many years, the title of this show and the idea of “finding their family” turns my stomach. They have a family – we did find each other!!

    The show’s concept doesn’t bother me as much as the ads and the title. I can choose whether my children watch the show, but I can’t know when the ads are coming on – so no more ABC for them. There is no reason to make them think, “Humm, maybe I am lost.” when they don’t feel that way yet.

    As the sister of a sibling who was adopted, I understand why knowing about blood relations would be important especially because of the horrible job they do of getting medical histories for adopted children. Still, my main concern is that the show is going to make all reunions look positive when I have seen some work and others that have wrecked lived. This is real life and I don’t have a good feeling about how it will be edited for tv.

    Are they going to help people who had their parental rights terminated? There is a book about adoption that shows the birth mother crying as she gives up her baby…that is not what happens for many children who suffer neglect and abuse.

    Hopefully the executives will be more concerned about the quality of the programming and making the show accurate instead of just getting the feel-good ratings…I’ll keep my fingers crossed.

  • Birthmother

    This would be an important show if the secrecy of adoption is shown to the world. Most people are not aware that adoptees and birthparents are treated as second citizens who are not entitled to know about the most important connection human beings have. Our familial bloodline is our continuation, our bond to our children and their children.
    What have adoptees done to deserve their birth certificate to be withheld? Agencies have said over and over again that they promised the birthparents confidentiality but that is just BS. That never happened. The secrecy is promised to the adopted family so they have the power to creat their own reality.

  • Born DEC 18th 1981 OK CITY

    Birthmother,
    Very well said! I was adopted by a family that took care of me, fed me well, put a roof over my head more then once and took me into their life. I got the guts to put my name on the Oklahoma registry a few years back but who’s to say my mother has worked up the courage? Sealed states like Oklahoma should roll back these old laws (with possibility of some privacy intact) This day in age its not only nice to know your families health history but to know where you came from. Can anyone argue with that? I would kill for a chance at this show. My adoptive sister was adopted at the same agency in Ok city. She finally looked for info about age 18. The agency said woops sorry here is a letter you were to get at age 8, by age 6 her mom had already died but at least she knows what happened.

    This show may mean nothing but ratings to some and that’s fine. To me it does not matter, only the happiness that one more person out there got closure.

    PS if you know anyone who had a baby boy on Dec 18th 1981 at 4:45am at Deaconess hospital (who charges a few hundred dollars for non identifying and scattered information) Then please post or contact

  • Mary

    To all the people searching…please register with ISRR (International Soundex Reunion Registry) at www dot isrr dot net. If you are searching in New York State, email me at maph88 at gmail dot com and I will give you information on some FREE resources to help you in your search in this state.

    Visit www dot adopteerights dot org to find out how you can help to restore to adopted people the right to their own birth certificates, which are sealed and kept from them in most states!

  • Birthmother

    To Born DEC 18th 1981 OK CITY ,
    Get involved with Adoption triad groups that have a search group within it’s circle, beside joining the Registry. Being a birthmother, I can give you a different prospective on this issue. We might have given up our child but we have never given up our responsibility to hand our their piece of history and the truth. So don’t be timid in your demands for what is due you. Don’t just accept non-identifying info. I wish you the best in finding answers. But find people who are searching and people who have found. You will need a sounding board.
    And remember this, by looking for those answers or connections you are not being disloyal to those wonderful people who raised you. It is a completely different relationship. I should know. I found my daughter I had surrendered in 1962 in 1981. Actually 9 days before you were born. It was the best day of my life.

  • Barbara Rice

    My 26 year old son and I have desparately been trying to bring his dad – whom he has never seen – from his country, Uruguay to the United States so that they can meet at long last.

    Our American Embassy has refused my son’s dad a Visa multiple times AND they keep his application fee of $100 each time.

    Reason for denial? They say that the Urguaian citizen cannot prove to the ambassador that he will return to Uruguay. Well, why wouldn’t he? He has an automobile repair business there plus his other children and grandchildren.

    Mr. Moreira’s mother died in her mid-sixties, he himself is about 57 now. I’m very concerned that my son, Michael and his dad will never meet.

    We do not have the funds to bring my ex-husband here. He would like to come and visit Michael for three months, if possible.

    If you think you may be able to help us, I will be most appreciative and will supply you any and all information I have.

    We are in Clayton, North Carolina — he, Maldonado, Uruguay South America.

    Thank you so much.

    Barbara Rice
    919 669-5739 cell
    919 553-9042 work

  • Jessie

    Hi I am 27 1/2 and I was adopted when I was 5 I would like to find my siblings using this show if anyone knows how please email me jessiehueyparra@yahoo.com thank you

  • sue vandergrinten

    I am a child of birth out of wedlock. My mother never married my dad. she was very tight lipped about her past when she was younger. when I turned 18 in 1980 I asked her point blank who my father was. she gave me a name and I carried his name is my head for 29 years. I had tried about 3 times to contact him over the past 29 years. He denied even knowing my mom because he was under the impression he was not my father so he denied knowing her to spare my feelings. Well, just recent I tried again due to health issues I was experiencing and wanted to know once and for all who my father was. I this time sent him a letter and within 2 days he called me. I was so overjoyed and we bonded instantly. We then decided to have a DNA test done which he paid for, I offered to pay but he insisited, and lo and behold he was NOT my biological father. We were both devastated. for 29 years i remembered his name. He then tried to help and my aunt gave me a name of who she thought my dad was. this time I was not so lucky. no open arms, no letter no nothing. I also in the course over the years discovered I had a brother and sister given up for adoption. My sisters and I are desperate and do not hvave the funding to launch a full scale investigation to find our family. This show is an awesome idea for people like me. How do we sign up for this show?

  • Patricia

    This sounds like a great show – I was given away and I have my real birth cert. and know my real mothers name but have hit dead end after dead end – I am 51 yrs old and found out about this when I was in my 20′s – It wasa very hused ordeal for years – now that all of my family that knew anything are all dead I am still searching-
    Sign me up for this show, I will be glad to tell my story.
    I was raised the only child and would love to have siblings and know what medical conditions run in my blood line.

    Thanks for those who care.

  • alanda

    I’ve been looking for my mother. I would like a show like this that can help me and if it would bring closure to those who are looking for theirs then why not.

  • aussieguy

    My biological parents and I have been directly impacted because of this show. One of the episodes that has been taped and may air feature 2 of my adopted siblings.

    Before anyone feels that this is a good show or any other feel good garbage, be warned. The contracts signed are all in ABC’s favor. The only compensation given is they’ll put you in contact with people who “might be” your relatives. With all of the details now in, these shows are a work of fiction. i.e. A fraud.

    The surviving members of my adopted siblings’ birth mother (now deceased) are highly opposed to how her character will be slandered on national TV. The stress from this disgusting show has put my mother in the hospital and gave medical complications to my father.

    For what? ABC can’t get access to the legal birth records as that would be a violation of the law. No original birth certificates were checked and this one is based in Wisconsin w/ the most liberal Open Records Act on the books. The supposed “DNA test results” were never shared with the participants. The “long lost siblings” look nothing alike despite supposedly having the same biological father and mother. The background stories are contrived and do not match up with any of the details recorded on the official records. We found out that the “matching of the siblings” is merely guesswork from public birth records.

    So for the sake of ratings and a few $$$, my parents are forced to suffer and my family irrevocably torn apart.

    Thanks a lot ABC

  • peggy

    You know, we’ve seen reunion shows like this before… finding the long lost dad who ran off or grandparents who got seperated from grandchildren after however many years.

    Its touching and warming… but this – birth parents hunting for children that they gave up for adoption… why? What are you doing to the people when you find them. What if thats a part of their life that they really dont want to re-visit? I want to see an adopted person (As I myself am) slam the door in the birth parents face. Instead of toting that adoptees wonder through life wondering where their real family is… (which is a falsehood – btw) perhaps they should stick to the dad who ran off or something.

    This is going to create alot of controversy and hurt alot of people. Our underaged viewers are going to see theese commercials (since we wouldnt dare let them watch the show) and wonder how they are supposed to feel. It will change the way friends, family, teachers and people in general view adoptees.

    I am an adoptee and also have 2 adopted children. Our now 19 year old decided last year to find his birth mom, which we reluctently helped him do. He tried to make a relationship with her work and it was good for about 2 weeks then she told him that all of her bast**d children ruined her life and how she wished she would have aborted him instead of adopting him out then he would never have been able to find her. ..

    it crushed him! Its not fair, let sleeping dogs lie, show some respect for the adoptees parents – the people who really raised and loved them… and dont expect to get support from me nor any of the adoptive communities.

  • Susan

    Many of us in the adoption community are concerned that this show will trivialize adoption and may even bring unwanted and insensitive questions about adoption to our young children. It seems as though this show will sensationalize the stories of a few and these experiences may well be extrapolated to the adoptive population at large. Another great “reality” show.

  • Deryl

    While I strongly beleive in adoption, I am apalled, even to the extent of being outraged…UNTIL you walk in the shoes of an adoptee, review your comments. I am an adoptee and would NOT trade my parents for the world. In saying that, as a human being that was created by God, I long to know my heritage. On a more serious note, try being treated as a SECOND rate citizen who cannot have access to medical history. Every American citizen has the right 2 know their medical history as well as their heritage…every citizen except adoptees that is. I have a child who was in 2nd grade and the class project was to create a paper doll showing her heritage…she showed one side of her heritage as opposed 2 the other children who had dolls created with 2 heritages. What about a 2 year old diagnosed with a heart murmur and the doc wants to know medical background? Thank God my adoptive parents did not have the complex that some of these on this board appear to have. Adoptive parents are God’s angels…your children will always love you, but we are all born

    You can never understand what is like to not know where you come from.

    I hope that when a family adopts a child its for the childs benefit-not the adoptive parents benefit.
    Adoption is not supposed to be for the benefit of the adoptive parents, but for the adopted child!

  • LivinLife

    I dont understand why there are so many harsh comments on this show. If some of you actually had this happen to you and you couldnt find a lost family member you would be extremely happy to be able to find them.

    I know this because I am one of those that has never met my biological father, my family wont talk about it and I would love to meet him, and know if i have any other sisters/brothers. All i know is that he knows about me. And I just found out about him a year ago.

    With that in mind a show like this gives me hope that i will be able to find him one day. I think this is a great idea for a show. And will definitly be watching it.

  • http://jehovah-jireh@groups.live.com Desiree

    I need to find my father, I never had one in my life, not even a step father…Can I possibly get some help?

  • Lori

    I am a certified Independent Search Consultant here in CA and help reunite adoptees and birth families. The responses on this page from those who have no clue what it’s like to be involved in the adoption triad are pitiful. I agree with many others who posted about adoptees nearly being treated as second class citizens. That said, and not to waste my time on people who have no clue, many of you are asking for assistance in locating loved ones.

    Please contact me if you would like assistance in locating your lost loved ones. My rates are very reasonable and I treat each case as if it were my own, personal search. Good luck to each one of you who searches and may you find the answers you are looking for.

    How simple a thing it seems to me that to know ourselves as we are, we must know our mothers names.
    Alice Walker

    ithakasearch@sbcglobal.net

  • ed mclean

    im living in a state that has the sealed adoption law,alltho it might be good in some situations ,in mine it is different…i am a father in search of my son who was put up for adoption without my knowledge i only found out about him a year ago.he will be 23 next month and i am at a stand still in my search. i need to find him and let him know how i feel if this show is what it sounds like you will help me.that would be great let me know

  • christine jackson

    I would like to find 2 sons that i gave up for adoption. please email me with information i would need to send to you.

  • rj

    I guese to start every jerk off that left an prick comment on here should live the life that I and millions others have and see whet their comments are after that I’ve been searching since I was 14 I’m 27 now I’ve only found 3 out of 11 siblings spents tones of money. I don’t care about my bio parents their worthless but the kids shouldn’t be punished for bad parents. Anyone that is offended by this call me at 3092979208 ill be more then happy to open your eyes to hell. This show is a great idea. Suprizingly opera dosent so this but same principle she helps people why shouldn’t their be any other shows

  • http://yahoo patrice e. lindsay martino

    for those who could never have a child of their own.. we as pregnant mother’s in my case choose to give my child a better life then i could offer him at the time i was 17, i choose to give him to two parents that could’nt have any children how selfish of those people who you gave your child to, to think that some day eith the child or mother wouldnt want to find each other. You wouldn’t have a child if it wasn’t for the fact we choose life instead if abortion.. this show should bring happiness.. why sorrow. i gave my son up, he found me, he dosent call me mom, but he got answers. we all deserve answers.. i’m still trying to find my own birth family. 50years now. You choose to adopt .. your being selfish not to let that child know.

  • Laura Mendez

    I would be intrested in being on your show I’m adopted and have found my bio mom but not my dad. I aslo gave a child up fir adoption in 1983

  • http://ABC.com Tangie Woodson

    My real name is Tangie Woodson I am looking for my Biological sisters, brothers and my father and mother sarahphinea Knowles. I have not seen them snice I was a bady and was adopted by my biological mother’s friend Iris who I have lived with for nineteen years and is still currently living with now. My last name was once Knowles but was later in years changed to my foster father’s last name which is Woodson when I was very little. My real birth name is Tangie Knowles but, is currently Tangie Woodson. I am not sure if my real mother sarahphinea knowles had a husband or was married I would also like to know who my real father is too. The main reason for wanting to find my biological family is because I want to know my ethic race who am I. Am I Indian? Candian? African? what race is I mainly mixed with?

  • http://www.sweetpeaforlife@myspace.com Tangie Woodson

    Hello it’s me again I forgot to leave my personal cell phone number. If you have any information on the whereabouts of my biological family members please contact me at Cell# 1(773)886-5961

  • http://www.sweetpeaforlife@myspace.com Tangie Woodson

    Or you can contact me by one of the following emails:
    tng_woodson@yahoo.com
    twoodson4@student.ccc.edu
    ladytis19@gmail.com

  • http://www.myspace.com/stweetpeaforlife Tangie Woodson

    you can type in my myspace URL also to contact me URL:http://www.myspace.com/stweetpeaforlife

  • rachel

    i was adoped when i was seven mounths old and i was wondering if i could find my birth parents and if there was a sepcic age

  • Rasul

    Greetings, My daughters and I have been separated not by me but their mother since they were 5 and 3 years old. With the advent of the internet I have kept my name and contact information out there. They only need to go online. Recently I found my eldest daughter walking to the subway in Brooklyn, New York. Today she is 23, I pulled my car over as she approached me on Ralph Ave. She immediately recognized me and made a very nasty statement as she kept walking. I jumped back in my car and followed her as she walked to the next train station at Utica Ave. My wife tried to catch her but she ran into the station and unto the train. Today I assume their mother has poisoned their minds and hearts against me, which increases the pain. If you could bring us together I will give it my all to get their love back. My love is without question for my daughters.

  • George W Behnke

    When I was between the age of 1 and 2 yrs, my mother had ran away with me from New York coming to Califorinia. I was not aware of this fact until the age of 16 yrs old. We were cleaning out an old shed in the backyard when I had come across pictures of me held in most by someone else than who I thought was my father. I had questioned my mother and she reluctantly gave in and told me a long shorted story that in todays world sounded like child abduction. She made me vow I would never seek out my father for fear of legal punishment. She had passed away almost two years ago and I have searched the internet many times with only dead ends. I feel like part of me is has always been missing not knowing my birth father. Please help if you can.
    Thank you

  • rj

    Its me again if any one knows any herleins or biological mom maiden name is sheri martin please contact me at mysticraven@sprint.blackberry.net or 3092979208 if it helps I now all my siblings biological names and bdaysmy youngest sister is brandy dawn she will be 21 this jan sharen wich is or will be 26ish james wich is 22 to 24 gary jr will or is 22 to 24 john robert wich is 29 our bio father is Gary herlein he’s berried in council bluffs ia sheri martin is 54ish is living in council bluffs I’ve met her and have her number I’ve met 3 of our half sisters and a cousin. 2 of our moms sisters and one of our brothers please contact me I’m exhausted of thesearching I have this show and a private investigator left to help I have only truelly asked one thing of wut people consider of a god and that is for me to find them all. Good luck to all I wish you all the best and happy ending to long hard searching

  • patricia

    I can not wait to see this show, I found my Mom’s sisters four years ago two days after my Mom’s birth day. I can tell you even now it all seems so unreal but is,and to see the look on my Mom’s face or hear the joy in her voice as she speaks to her sisters is priceless. I know now as she watches this show this time she will not set and cry wondering what happend to her sisters, cause now she will already know, it used to be she would cry and watch shows like unsolved mystries as they would show some one searching for there family, and it hurt to see her hurt. so I can tell any one if u are searching never give up they are out there some where and it is worth the find.

  • James Edward Francis

    My brother Herbert and I were put up for adoption in 1949, San Diego, Ca. My brother is 11 months older than me. My father was in he Navy, and my mother was a waitress in a cafe. Shortly after I was born, my father was due back from sea duty. When my mother went to the greet him, he had already been met by his wife and 3 children. Not being able to emotionally deal with the pain, my brother and I, who represented this betrayal were put up for adoption. The doctor who adopted us, gave me back after seeing my skin become darker than my brothers’. My mother is Dutch, and my father is French decent. I was later placed with a black family. When my mother would come to visit the Francis’s to see how I was adjusting, I thought she was a Social Worker, for I was one of 8 foster boys being cared for. I have been searching for my biological mother and brother since I was 18. I am now 61. Can you possibly help. My birth date is June 22, 1948

  • James Edward Francis

    Edit. In June of 1957, my biological mother signed for the francis family to adopt me. I was the only one of all the boys fostered, that was adopted.

  • http://yahoo patrice e. lindsay martino

    if anyone can help me with helping me with finding my birth relatives and lives in n.j. thats where i live in 21 foster homes and was born. please e-mail. i have a small amount of info petey.leising@yahoo.com 50 years is much to long!!!!

  • Shannon

    I would like to also add a comment to all this nonsense. Adoption is nothing to take lightly, and it is difficult for all parties involved. If you took the time, you would see how many people out there are searching for someone or something in their life that has been missing. I read some of these comments and it made my blood boil. I will tell you that I am one of the families involved in the show, and it is REAL! Thank God for ABC! Bringing families back together, when all other efforts have come up with nothing! Both parties involved have to give the ok. If both parties were not willing to reunite, there would be no show! Everyone is entitled to their opinions, but if you don’t have all the facts, please keep them to yourself. You have no right to pass judgment about how the families involved are feeling or why we chose to do the show without knowing the whole story. If you dont want to watch the show, then dont. It wasnt done for your approval. If you take the time to watch the show you will see how much this whole process has affected both families. It is a very real. If you watch the show, and you can say I am an “actor” then I deserve an oscar!

  • henry smith

    Hi,My name is Leslie and I would like to apply for your show for my husband who has been searching for his father or someone in his family all his life. This has been a very touchy subject for him his mother is gone now so we have nothing she would not give him any info about him just that he is died but for some reason I think there is more to the story. can you please help me close this chapter in my life so I could move on and be a good father to my kids because I have alot of questions that need answers . Thank you Henry Smith

  • Jlll mcbride

    I was adopted 44 years ago… In Ohio too late for public record release.. I am looking for my birth parents.

  • Marilyn Johnson

    We adopted both of our children through an agency in Houston, Tx. Will you please e-mail us if you can help them find their birth familites? Thank you so much. Marilyn

  • AdoptedTOO

    WOW obviously the ones that say this is not a good show are not adoptees or parents of adopted children. This is as real as it gets. You can always change the channel and watch another make believe cop or hospital show.

  • Sharon

    No one knows the agony of a lost child until you go through this separation. All your life you wonder at how wonderful a child you have given up. It is almost like having an arm ripped off, or losing a hand. My heart says, “Thank you”. It encourages me to look again until I an reunited with my son after 39 years! Sharon

  • Jessica Boan

    Wow! I am loving this show! I dont know my father either….

  • AdoptedTOO

    I am still searching…and will not give up.

  • Linda

    What is ridiculous about the show is when they are all by the tree. The daughter is standing there waiting. The parents, seeing her in the distance, are standing there being interviewed. They should have just bounded up the hill to meet her.

  • AdoptedTOO

    I would have…

  • Christi

    I am guessing none of you with the negative comments are adopted. I applaud the show since I am adopted and am excite4d about watching others go through my experience. It is nice to hear what the birth parents are feeling since I have not yet met mine.

  • Dorthie Anelle Free

    I gave up my daughter for adoption 20 yrs ago and have not found her and this helps me know that their hope and people to find them

  • AdoptedTOO

    I agree with you Christi..

  • Christi

    Is there a casting call for this show?? does anyone know how to write our story to see if we can be chosen?

  • Sergio

    I wanna thank Scott and Sandy Steinpas for sharing these moments with us that remind all of us the importance of having a family

  • Robertoa C. Reed

    Hello my name is Robertoa C. Reed and I have been looking for my father who I was named after my entire life. It is my fondest wish and prayer to find him. His name is Robert White and my mother has no date of birth of social security number for him. There are so many Robert Whites in the world. Sorry to bother you I just got my hopes up so high when I saw the commercials and read your article.
    I hope you can help me.

  • http://tvbythenumbers.com Robert Seidman

    Christi, there was a casting call, but for now all (6) of the episodes of the show that were ordered have already been produced. Whether ABC will order any more episodes other than the ones set to air will probably depend on the ratings. I’d make sure to watch the end credits that run after the sixth episode airs to see if they say anything about participating.

  • http://www.ujm.wetpaint.com olephatpastor

    i’ll be 49 the fifth of december. my adopted father and mother are dead. even the adopted brother was murdered by a drive by shooter. i’m all alone and wish i could find my biological family :(

  • jrd

    So glad to know ABC does not consider adoptive parents “family”.

  • Texrobin

    Christi I am like you is there any way to get on the show. I am adopted and have been searching since I was 18. I am 40 now. I have information about her (birth mother), but not enough to find her. I have hit walls. I will not give up. Dont you ever give up either. We will find our birth family. Good luck.

  • jenna ritchey

    my name is jenna and im looking for my brother harry dana braswell i have tried looking him up on the internet, paid money to search for his address and phone number i called the number and it was disconnected. ive called 411 and there was no number for him the last i heard he was adopted and was living in indiana. the website i went to said he lives in tell city indiana.please help me find my brother, his father, and both sisters are looking for him. our grandmother was the last to have any contact with him, and she past away in 2006, so please abc help us find our brother and son.

  • AdoptedTOO

    If anyone was adopted from Scranton PA in 1964 from St. Josephs, leave a message. I was born April 18th 1964, birth name was Kevin.

  • slappedinthefacemom

    I watched with mixed emotions as the new show, “Find My Family” aired. Both the co-hosts, Ms. Joyner and Mr. Green, profess that they were both adopted, like somehow that fact makes it “ok” that they are now taking reality TV to a low I never thought I would see.

    I get it – the birth mother/father make a supreme sacrifice and always wonder if the baby they gave up is ok. I get it – the adopted child always wonders who are their birth parents. It’s normal and I get it so much so that as the mother of a 12 year old son that we adopted at birth, we have always told our son that when he is an adult, we will do everything in our power to help him find his birth parents. Notice I did not say family, because biology does not instantly equate to family in all cases.

    I thank God every day for my son’s birth mother who entrusted him to us. He is not ours, nor hers, but God’s. So what he ultimately chooses with respect to finding his birth relatives will be up to him. No matter how the fact that I am not enough, or as the producers of this show contend, somehow not really “family”, I will support him when and if his journey takes him down this path because I love him.

    But this show romanticizes the very complex and painful realities often associated with adoption. It is irresponsible to exploit these emotions in a public forum in such myopic vignettes. Particularly when kids of all ages will watch this show and think that they too will have these happy endings. How many tweens and teens will go to bed after watching this saccharine show thinking that their real “family” will be the solution to all their problems if only they could find them?

    This show will have a lot more credibility with me if they have the courage to portray someone whose “family” turns out not to want to be found. Or better yet, if they follow up on the reunions they have made to fully portray the process of merging an adopted family with the birth relatives of the adopted person. But I fear stories of this sort may not be viewed as the stuff that makes good TV.

    I wonder how the adoptive parents of Green and Joyner feel about their children’s new gigs. I sure hope they think this is a better idea than I do, or every time this show airs they may feel like they are being slapped in the face somehow. I know I sure do.

  • http://facebook Lori Ably

    The show is GREAT! It give me a new hope that someday I will find my son David Karl Quimby Sharp, DOB July 1997 Boise Idaho. He was adopted shortly after. I have always loved and missed him and included him even in his absence. He was so perfect and so beautiful when he was born. I held him, I named him and I gave him gifts. He should be able to love me or hate me but not have to wonder who I am.

  • Charles Jameson

    All I know is my birth parents were High School Sweethearts and my birth father was athletic. They supposed to have lived in Western Kansas and my birth Mother was sent to Kansas City to avoid the unwed mother stigma of a small town. That was later recanted by Mom (to my Dads dismay)and she informed me she may have been a prostitute.

    Too my misfortune I was born in the State of Missouri at the Florence Crittenton Home for Unwed Mothers (now St. Lukes Hospital) on September 8, 1962, I was nicknamed Baby Bert and went to live with my parents on October 31, 1962. Since my adoption was finalized prior to August 13, 1986, the adoptive parents must be notified first, and a search will only be conducted if the adoptive parents agree.

    Missouri had a Judge that was trying to change that law but he found himself on the wrong end of a elevator shaft in an abandon building.

    Growing up my Mom and Dad always told me if I ever wanted to find my birth parents they would assist me. But when I made the request my Mother would not consent. She said it should be not important to me that I know……Really MOM? Isn’t that lying Mom?

    I am aware some people like my Mom who don’t appreciate the show, but there are many who are adopted who do. I think you ought to walk a mile in my shoes before you open your trap. Because unless your adopted you don’t understand because you now all the pieces to the puzzle whereas we are missing pieces of the puzzle. Being adopted, it is like being a number or letter bingo or lotto. You got thrown in the hopper and someone picked you, you didn’t pick them. If your lucky like me you got two loving (for the most part) parents who took wonderful care of you.

    According to Mom those pieces to the puzzle should not be important to me……Really Mom?

    Family Counselors told Mom it would do wonders for our relationship…..And she wonders why we don’t have a ‘Warm and Loving’ relationship.

    Her lowest of low was after my newborn son was in Stage 3 NICU with similar respiratory problems as I had in my early years. We asked Mom for consent as a means to obtain more medical history…..You don’t need that she said. WOW that was a splendid performance.

    Despite her behavior she is my ‘Mom’ and always will be. And the best present she could ever give me is C-O-N-S-E-N-T.

  • Charles Jameson

    @slappedinthefacemom

    All I want is the opportunity to answer all the unanswered questions, princes or paupers I don’t care. I just want to know. It would also be nice to tell them they made a good decision and not a mistake.

    If my birth parents don’t want the intrusion so be it, end of story.

  • AdoptedTOO

    WELL SAID Charles!! I know the feeling of the missing pieces…the feeling of incomplete.

  • AdoptedTOO

    I hope you find him again Lori..

  • http://www.musingsofthelame.com Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy

    I must admit that I am very dissaopointed that ABC did not take the opportunity to discuss the current states of Adoptee Rights legislation in the USA that affects 6 million adoptees and their families. Please consider using the show to educate!

    American-born adult adoptees in all but the states of Alaska, Kansas, Alabama, Oregon, New Hampshire and Maine do not have the right that unadopted American-born citizens do: The right to have a copy of their original birth certificate.

    Today, millions of adoptees are routinely denied access to their original birth certificates. This show, Find mY Family is a great opportunity to bring awareness to the people, that this practice is discriminatory and harmful. If the remaining states restore unfettered access to original birth certificates for all adult adoptees, the beauty that was this show could be shared amounst all adoptees who desiresd to search for their birth families.

    ABC; you have an obligation to the people and to all adoption members everywhere to support adoptee rights, not just get good ratings; http://adopteerights.net/

    Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy

    http://www.musingsofthelame.com

  • Debbie Hathaway

    My real father left a year after I was born. I guess the reason was because he was on coke. The new father I got raped me and my sister repeatedly. My maternal aunt asked me one time why I wanted to find him he’s on coke. I think I would have rather dealt with that than a child molester. I know one side of my real family just not the father side. I could have a whole new family. My adopted parents have passed away, so now I can look for him. The people that have a bad attitude about this show have not walked in our shoes! Until you do why don’t you keep your TRAP SHUT!!!!!

  • Patricia

    Exactly, no one knows how we feel and the identity crisis we face because of all of the mix ups in our lives. I am 55 yrs. old and trying to find my biological father. My bio-mom is dead, but I managed to find my 3 siblings from her side. Now I need to find my fathers side.

    My mother was kicked out of her home at age 12 because of her accusations of sexual abuse by a family friend. She managed to meet a man who was a gangster who held her captive for a number of years, until she escaped and went to California. She met a man at 15 and became pregnant at age 15 and had a girl…my sister and then met my father and had another child at 20. She adopted us both out when my sister was 7 and I was 3. We went to different families….but managed to find each other through networking all our lives!!!! I found my sister when I was 12!!! How lucky am I!!!??? We are still in touch and very close…

    No one understands how we rejects feel…. Not to mention the need for medical history!!! I am way too old not to know what my medical history is…

  • Lisa

    While the show only let us into one family’s happy reunion. They are not all like that and many adoptees feel more pain and are not healed by the reunion experience. Hopefully, this reunited family continues to have success.
    Adopted parents who so object to this show, have you considered that no matter how happy your child is.. that he or she has natural parent fantasies? I mean come on .. as an adoptee it is perfectly natural to dream and wish for your original parents, however, the children keep it to themselves as they do not wish to hurt their parents.
    As for the “children shouldnt be watching this show” comment.. well, what are you little children doing up at 9:30?? And why shouldnt they be aware that people are adopted and do wonder about their heritage and the people that they came from? Another thing, if you dont want your children watching a show like this.. parental controls.
    There are a vast amount of adoptees and original parents searching for their children/birth parents.. google it for crying out loud and learn something.
    Adoptive parents need to get over this my child crap. Sure we are your children, you adopted us.. but there is another side of the biological story. Thankfully, my parents always felt i had the right to know, and supported me during my search and find. Now that is a kind of a human, that adopts and stands by, not abandoning nor snubbing the nose and taking it personally.
    By saying that you can not acknowledge the first family of your child.. does this mean that you can not acknowledge the love of step parents and step children as well. Open your eyes .. we are not gods children we are yours and theirs.
    It is a shame that the adoptee rights were not mentioned as so many states are fighting for original birth certificates. Do you know that some people can not get drivers licenses or passports due to the AMENDED birth certificates that name you as our mothers and fathers?
    The triad is a myth, a triangle is supposed to have equal sides, and the birth family has never been equal in this.
    There is a history lesson underneath the whole issue of adoption.
    For those searching.. there are search angels who work for free! and do not charge outrageous amounts of money to help find your birth parents and they are wonderful people who understand the plight of an adoptee.
    I hate the feelings i have for adoptive parents who would deny their children the opportunity to find out where they came from. On the same hand, if some one is not interested in searching that is their personal choice as well. But some day they wake up and start to wonder about things they have been denying.
    Lets not forget the late discovery adoptees whose adopters just didnt tell them anything about being adopted.
    Like i said this is a bigger topic than just a 1/2 reunion.

  • Sandi Z

    I thought the show was a real tear-jerker, but it is reality. In my 30+ years in Social Services, I saw first-hand worse situations than this. I too, as a young mother, working in a hospital setting, seeing many unwanted newborns put up for adoption. One particular case I remember until today…a young single mother gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, the day she was being discharged she asked to go out to her car for her credit card to pay the hospital bill (she registered in-patient under an assumed name) she never returned for her newborn daughter. The hospital now had a newborn and no one to nurture & love her. She was taken away the next day by an adoption agency. That little girl must be about 25+ yrs. by now. I think that is more heart-wrenching than seeing “Find My Family” reunions on ABC. I also have known adoptees who wanted to locate their bio-parents for health reasons. I feel that if the individual takes that step to locate their family members thru the show, then so be it. If you don’t enjoy watching it, you don’t like ABC, or for any other reason, then TURN IT OFF or CHANGE THE CHANNEL, you are in total control of the situation. We have FREEDOM OF CHOICE

  • donna

    I liked the show and will watch it again.Liked that the hosts were adopted and can emphasize with the families.I like it cause its a feel good show, which is much needed in this falling apart world!!!!

  • http://tvbythenumbers lk

    “I hate the feelings i have for adoptive parents who would deny their children the opportunity to find out where they came from. On the same hand, if some one is not interested in searching that is their personal choice as well. But some day they wake up and start to wonder about things they have been denying.
    Lets not forget the late discovery adoptees whose adopters just didnt tell them anything about being adopted.”

    To Lisa don’t hold judgment on all parents who adopt and dont tell. I wish I wasnt told to protect me from the evil I found. I would have died if my parents had not adopted me. I also now have to worry they could track me back down because I looked. I wish I never would have.

  • sj

    I think TV shows like this are allowing the truth about adoptions to come out. As a birthmom, it is a huge thing to be able to talk about being a birthmom, esp if one has had to be silent because of the “shame” that was “unspoken” years ago. As an adoptee, it allows an “ice breaker”, someone can watch the show and initiate conversation about what if? As adopted parents, it was stated above in a post. We aren’t asking to take your child back. We are asking to share our health, our quirks, our talents, our ancestries with your/our child, more than likely an adult at this time.

    I have heard that registered pets come with all sort of titles, health tests, ancestries information. And suggestions regarding temperaments/food/ ect. One breeder has a 35 page packet to go with her puppies.

    Do we offer adoption families that much information? AND what does it feel like to wonder for 30 something years about your child. It was for me, a never ending feeling of sadness- that just laid beneath the surface of your heart. The world didn’t see it. but you knew it like a second job.. you couldn’t put a name on it, because it’s not recognized in society. Today those walls are coming down!

    A birthmom in a successful reunion for 5 years. that includes aparents,bparents,and extended family.

  • Ellie Unterbrink

    I am adopted and 63 years old. I found out when I was 34 and both adoptive parents deceased. I tried to find out who my biological parents were but didn’t. My father before passing told me I was adopted at my age 34. He told me the agency and I contacted them but they only told me generic things. I did leave a letter in that file incase they wanted to find me but no one ever did.
    Wish I knew who my real family was.
    Can you help me in any way
    Ellie Unterbrink
    Springfield, IL

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